Stress Buster #2 – Learn to Say No

Stress Buster #2 – Learn to Say No

We moms are notorious for being people pleasers. If we’re asked to volunteer at school, we do it without question. If a neighbor needs a favor, of course we do it. Added to that, we’re constantly running around for our families and putting our own individual needs last.

It really doesn’t make sense, does it? We teach our children to think for themselves, to do what’s right for them, and yet we don’t do it for ourselves. It’s time we stand up and be a role model, right?

When it comes to people asking you to help out, consider the following before simply saying yes like you might normally do.

  • Don’t say yes right away. Let the person know you’ll get back to them. Give yourself time to consider because there’s nothing worse than saying yes right away and regretting it five minutes later.
  • Don’t let flattery get the best of you. Sure, you might be a great organizer or baker, but there are plenty of other people out there with the same skills who can do that job. It doesn’t always have to be you.
  • Drop the guilt. We have a lot of people demanding our time and some will make us feel guilty because we don’t offer enough of it. If you are truly neglecting someone, then you may need to take that into consideration. But in most cases, you have to realize you are only one person and you can only do what you can do.

Now that you know that you have the power to say no, it’s time to look at everything you already have on your plate.

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Cindy is the editor of the Inspired Living Community. She is also the author of Blogging the Right Way and CEO of CB Virtual Services.
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  1. ReplyKeesha

    As females, we have been socialized to believe that saying yes is always the ladylike thing to do. But I agree with you. Saying no is sometimes the better thing to say and we shouldn’t feel guilty about saying no. I need to improve at this myself so thanks for the reminder.

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      ReplyCindy Buccieri

      Thanks, Keesha. I used to be a “yes” girl. Allowing myself to say, “No” and knowing that it’s ok because I’m honoring what’s best for me was a huge step for me.

  2. ReplyPaulette

    Nice tips. It’s a good idea not to be presurred into doing things right away especially if your not sure of your schedule. I’m not a mom but if I get asked to do something I usually tell people I will get back to them because I need to check my calendar to make sure that I am available for that date/time.

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